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MTA’s Little Drummer Boy

MTA’s Little Drummer Boy

A young boy, not more than 10 years old, is walking through the number 6 train in New York City at 10:45pm. He is carrying a black book bag that has some stains, drumsticks and a drum with him. On his face is a mixture of emotions ranging from determination, sadness and frustration. Around his neck, instead of a gold chain, he wears a beaded necklace showing the colors and flag of his country, the Dominican Republic.

In true panhandle fashion, he shares that he is trying to raise some money and he will play some music on his drum. He sets his drum on a seat between two people. The little drummer boy begins to play. The wall, seat and floor become his extra drum support in his little show. Some are annoyed. Finding it to be very loud noise, they cover their ears. They completely lose what he is showing: passion, strength and determination to be heard.

As he sees the annoyance of some, he plays harder, determined to finish. He wants to put on the best show that he can. The better the show, the more money he can earn. For this little drummer boy, it isn’t just noise, it is his way of earning money using what he loves to do: play his drum.

Upon completion, he looks around and asks if anyone is willing to give him some money. It seems only fair. A show for a dollar. It has become common place in the New York City transit system. Only this is different.

Here we have a little boy walking through the trains playing his drum for money. He should be home in bed getting ready for school. Have New Yorkers become so jaded that seeing this has little to no affect on them? As I watched the faces of my fellow passengers, it seems it did not faze them. Only an event of massive proportions like Mother Nature’s fury or war are the only things that can shock.

As I laid my head on my pillow that night, I thought about the little drummer boy on the 6 train and prayed he would go home, sleep and wake up to be just a little boy who loves to play his drum. No worries. Just a boy and his drum.

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Posted by on May 24, 2013 in Life

 

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The Pursuit of One Girl’s Dream

A dream. That’s how it starts. There is something to be said for dreaming about something. After all, things can Seize the Dayonly happen when it is dreamed about. Nothing was ever achieved by sitting on your butt in hopes that it would be handed to you. It has to be dreamed about it. It has to be desired. It has to be loved and nurtured.

That’s what this is about. The pursuit of my dream.

I’ll be honest. There are times when I am afraid of achieving my dream. I know it sounds silly. The thought of success can be frightening. I’m not sure why. I never truly understood that. Probably because I feel that the more successful you become, the bigger your failure can be. So despite knowing that I can succeed in what it is I want to do, I do nothing. Or I just do enough to keep me where I am comfortable rather than where I can be successful.

Is this making any type of sense to you? Hoe about we keep it as I am very complicated. Some who know me will describe as sometimes being so simple that I am complicated.

So what is my dream? To be a great sportswriter. To a Lisa Olsen-type of writer. She was a sportswriter I admired when i was in school. I read almost all of her articles in the New York Daily News. When one of my articles on my Mets website was linked into one of her articles on Aol’s Sporting News page, I was ecstatic.

What happened between now and then? I got scared. I started to fear success. Well no longer. Nothing was ever achieved by not doing anything. I have to keep going. I have to keep pushing. I have to remain confident. I have gotten to the point where I even started to doubt my abilities. That should never happen. Once you get to the point where you doubt yourself, your dreams start to get out of your reach.

Here is where I make the decision to keep on. Want to join me? Let’s seize the day.

For more on pursuing your dreams, take a listen to tonight’s Raise Your Glass program on Blog Talk Radio.

 
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Posted by on January 18, 2013 in Life

 

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I Resolve…Wait! I had a revelation.

The year 2012 was supposed to be my year of greatness. It was supposed to be the year where I achieved the greatest things. Instead, I only accomplished one thing: college graduation.

Now some might think that in itself is a great achievement. For me, while it was wonderful, especially sharing it with my closest friends, colleagues and family, I wanted more for myself. I’m not complaining. I’m just pointing out some things to myself. Some things that I came to terms with.

I have another website. It is dedicated to the New York Mets: CitiField of Dreams. Well this past year was supposed to be the biggest year for that site since it launched a few years ago.

I decided to start doing videos. My readers were excited about it. It started great. Unfortunately, it didn’t continue. Call it laziness. Call it being preoccupied with other things like school and work.

Whatever it was, I was very disappointed. I was upset at myself. Blogging and reporting about the Mets was once a passion of mine. I lived for it. I was dedicated. I did whatever it took to get the job done from cutting class, being late to class or even being late to work to finish a blog post.

It seems I lost my drive. I’m not sure when it happened. But I think it happens to all of us at some point. It doesn’t matter how passionate we are about something, at some point we lose the drive to do the very thing we loved to do.

This is why I detest resolutions. We always start out strong and passionate about them, but when it comes down to it, not many of us get anywhere with them. You probably will do great with exercising for a good month or eating healthy for a few weeks. At some point, you might fall off. Resolutions just set up us for failure. A public failure at that.

So with that said, I have every intention of using revelations about myself from last year to make the new year a better one for myself. I suggest you do the same. After all, as Damian Lewis said: “People need a revelation, and then they need a resolution.”

Here is to a healthy, successful, and peaceful new year. Make it your best year yet!

 
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Posted by on January 2, 2013 in Life

 

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One Nation, Under God

Total devastation. That is the only way to describe what has happened here on the East Coast thanks to Superstorm Sandy. As many of you know, I live in New York City. Born and raise here. I am very proud of that. It has broken my heart to see all of the suffering around me.

With that pain, comes anger. Too many have turned this disaster into a political match. They have linked it to the presidential election.

This is not about politics. This is about everyone coming together for something greater than themselves. Listen to the stories coming out of this storm. People have lost family members. They have lost everything.

Whatever happened to the golden rule:

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?

People in New York have gotten into fights trying to get on a bus just to get to work. People are attacking our politicians for decisions they have made. It is not easy being in office and making the tough choices. It is so easy to attack and to criticize. Forgive them for their mistakes. They are human just as you are. Do you mean to tell me you have not made critical errors in judgement?

Understand that we are not going to get through this by attacking. We will get through this with faith, patience and understanding. We are here to help each other, not to attack. I love a lot of the things I have seen among my friends on Facebook where they are offering their homes to those who need a hot shower or to charge their phones. I love seeing the posts for others where to get gas and some who have offered to pick up gas for those who cannot.

I want everyone to understand this. It is not easy to make decisions as to who should get aid first. There is so much devastation around from the Jersey Shore to Staten Island. This isn’t just about New York. It is about New Jersey, Connecticut, Pennsylvania and all of the other states affected by Superstorm Sandy.

Thank you to all of the utility companies from other states who have come up north to help restore power. I salute you. Thank you to those who have offered your time to help feed the hungry and clothe those who lost everything. Everybody can do something to help. From volunteering to donations of all types, there is a job for each and every one of us.

We are the United States of America. We the people make up what is considered to be a great nation. It is time we stand united, not apart. It does not matter who you are voting for. What matters is that we come together, one nation, under God.

 
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Posted by on November 2, 2012 in Life

 

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Powerful Facebook Status from Tyler Perry

There are so many stories that we hear about. Stories that we say are inspiring. Yet I cannot remember the last time I have been so moved by what a celebrity wrote like I was when I read this letter. I almost cried. It renewed my faith in my dreams.

There are so many times when I feel like giving up, like I am not going to make it. I have to remember to keep the faith, to keep praying and to keep seeking the Lord’s will. Sometimes He uses the most unlikely individuals to inspire us to where He wants us to be.

Tyler Perry’s Facebook Status/Letter

July 10, 2012

Why did I put all my money into this? Is this going to work? God, do you hear me? Where are the people? I’m so scared. How will I pay these people? Why did I do this? I can’t pay my rent, they are going to repossess my car…

The year was 1992, July 8th-12th. All these questions were crowding my mind. I was a 22-year old wannabe… but what I wanted to be I didn’t know. All I knew was that I had written this play about adult survivors of child abuse and I wanted the world to see it. I was so sure that it was going to work that I put my own money into the show.

I had worked as a used car salesman and a bill collector and saved my income tax check and my bonuses. I took that money and hired a cast and built a set and rented a very small theater in Atlanta called the 14th Street Playhouse. I had done all the math in my head: I was going to perform 6 shows, 200 people a show, for a total of 1,200 people. The tickets were $12 and I was going to make $14,000 and be rich… LOL. I was going to give my tithe to the church, give my mother some money, pay my rent (that was two months behind), get my car payment caught up and live happily ever after. I knew as sure as I am sitting here that it was all going to be all right. I had prayed that thang out, as they say in the Baptist church… LOL. Looking back on it now I can laugh, but back then it wasn’t so funny. What I quickly realized is that prayer alone will not always get the results you want. As much work as I did, I didn’t do enough to promote the show. More work was needed to go along with my faith.

I was expecting 1,200 people but only 30 showed up. I was devastated. I thought my dreams were dead. Based off this one thing I thought my life was over. Based on this one failure (what I thought was a failure but it clearly wasn’t), I thought that the rest of my life would be ruined. Needless to say, looking back on it, it was all a part of God’s plan and amazing design for my life. And God has a plan for all of our lives.

Today I celebrate my 20th anniversary in show business. It’s been an amazing journey, one that I will detail in my autobiography one day. You would be surprised, inspired, angry and blown away with what I’ve endured to be here, but until then I’d like to share a little inspiration with you. So many times we think that because one thing didn’t go as planned we should give up on it. So many people leave their dreams dying on the floor, gasping for air because it didn’t work out the first time. Be it marriage, business, children, faith, whatever your dream is, you can’t give up because it didn’t go as planned. If I had walked away because it didn’t work you wouldn’t be reading this. I had to keep moving. Yes, there were setbacks. Yes, it was difficult, but I got to see my dreams come to pass because I never stopped moving forward, I never stopped praying and most of all I never stopped believing. DON’T STOP BELIEVING!!!! PLEASE DON’T STOP BELIEVING!!! Say this to yourself out loud right now: “DON’T STOP BELIEVING”, and repeat it to yourself whenever you doubt that you can make it.

What you must understand is that everything, all of it, the good the bad and the ugly, it all works together for your good. If you love the Lord you are called according to His purpose. What’s His purpose for you? If you’re not sure, seek it and all your dreams will come true.

To all my dreamers, to all the people who have invested in themselves, to all the people who have the same questions that I did, hear me when I say this: YOU CAN DO IT!!

CELEBRATING 20 YEARS IN SHOW BUSINESS TODAY!!!!

God Bless you, in Jesus’ name, AMEN!

-Tyler

 
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Posted by on July 20, 2012 in Life

 

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Confidence Can Hit Rock Bottom

I have often spoken about being confident. I stress being confident in every aspect of their life: looks, job,
abilities. Unfortunately for me, I find myself often lacking the security in myself.

Graduating from Brooklyn College should have been enough to show me that I can do more than I thought I could. I juggled work, three websites, two podcasts and school. I would work an average of 30 hours, study for 10 hours, work on podcasts for two hours and blog for a total of 10 hours a week.

It was a lot of stress. But I made it. I got through it.

Stage two of my life is set to begin in two to three weeks. I’m scared. More like terrified about what is about to happen. All of the thoughts you don’t want to run through your mind, do.

Will I find a job?

If I do get a job, will I be any good at it?

The job market is so bad. What have I done to deserve a job?

Cue in the extra pressure.

If I can’t find a job, how am I going to afford rent?

What about food?

Was school a waste, if I cannot find a job?

It feels like life is just one big ball of stress. All confidence has gone out the window. I forget all of the things that I have accomplished. Did I do anything worthwhile?

How do people who live with doubt in their lives? It feels almost impossible to do it.

I say all of those because some people have told me that I inspire them. Well, here is where you get to know that I have all sorts of emotions that run through me. I doubt myself profusely. I get up every day and hope that I can accomplish something.

With every blog, Facebook post and podcast, if I can encourage one person, then that is all that matters. That will have made my life worth living. I would be able to rest in peace.

The bottom line is that we have to believe in ourselves. If we don’t, why should anyone else believe in us?

 
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Posted by on June 21, 2012 in Life, Work and School

 

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Eddie Cantor Says…

 

“Slow down and enjoy life.

It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.”

 
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Posted by on June 9, 2012 in Life

 

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