Category Archives: Work and School

Confidence Can Hit Rock Bottom

I have often spoken about being confident. I stress being confident in every aspect of their life: looks, job,
abilities. Unfortunately for me, I find myself often lacking the security in myself.

Graduating from Brooklyn College should have been enough to show me that I can do more than I thought I could. I juggled work, three websites, two podcasts and school. I would work an average of 30 hours, study for 10 hours, work on podcasts for two hours and blog for a total of 10 hours a week.

It was a lot of stress. But I made it. I got through it.

Stage two of my life is set to begin in two to three weeks. I’m scared. More like terrified about what is about to happen. All of the thoughts you don’t want to run through your mind, do.

Will I find a job?

If I do get a job, will I be any good at it?

The job market is so bad. What have I done to deserve a job?

Cue in the extra pressure.

If I can’t find a job, how am I going to afford rent?

What about food?

Was school a waste, if I cannot find a job?

It feels like life is just one big ball of stress. All confidence has gone out the window. I forget all of the things that I have accomplished. Did I do anything worthwhile?

How do people who live with doubt in their lives? It feels almost impossible to do it.

I say all of those because some people have told me that I inspire them. Well, here is where you get to know that I have all sorts of emotions that run through me. I doubt myself profusely. I get up every day and hope that I can accomplish something.

With every blog, Facebook post and podcast, if I can encourage one person, then that is all that matters. That will have made my life worth living. I would be able to rest in peace.

The bottom line is that we have to believe in ourselves. If we don’t, why should anyone else believe in us?

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Posted by on June 21, 2012 in Life, Work and School


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Celebrate Good Times

It was a week to remember. The countdown began towards my graduation from Brooklyn College with a degree in Broadcasting Journalism. I thought the day would never come. It came and went by too fast. I wish the day was longer. I worked hard enough for it.

There are so many ways to describe that day. So many ways I can described what it meant to me. I even told my dad I wasn’t sure I was going to ever get to this point. I did!

I got to celebrate with friends and family. Those who I love the most were there to celebrate a giant milestone in my life. Some of them were celebrating the same milestone. Others were there just to party with me.

As I sat there in my cap and gown, I thought about everything. There was a lot that happened to me between going back to school and graduation. I battled inner demons like depression. I could say I failed at things, but I didn’t because I learned from them. I moved on past other things. I didn’t let anything stop me.

For me, the motto for the class of 2012 is: Strength, Determination, Faith and Love! RISE UP!

I heard a great speech from Senator Chuck Schumer. Even if we make mistakes, we can always get back on the horse and keep on going. Never stop dreaming. Never stop believing.

We all battled. We all made it. We thrived on the strength of each other. Meeting some of people I graduated with was a huge turning point in my life because they made all the difference in the world. I met a mother who was pregnant while in school and didn’t let that stop her from finishing a documentary we had to do for class. I met a girl who is probably the most positive person ever. She never appeared stressed out.

There were others.

I had a Professor who fought hard along side me and never let me fall. When I wanted to give up, she pushed me harder. She believed in me. She helped me come up with the idea for my first documentary “Empowering A Community”:

I accomplished so much. I worked so hard for it. While I was in school, I worked, blogged for several websites, recently started to host two podcasts while appearing as a guest on several others. I have come a long way from the insecure woman I was.

On Thursday, May 31, 2012, I rose up and showed the world what you can accomplish even when the odds are against you. To the class of 2012, we made it. We struggled, we stressed, we cried, but we did it!


To all of my readers, listeners, friends and FB family, thank you for believing in me. Thank you for your continued support in everything I did. It makes all the difference in the world.


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Attitude Determines Altitude

Attitude Determines Altitude

There is something to be said about your attitude determining how far you will go. Former New York Jets coach,
Lou Holtz, had this to say about attitudes:

Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.

During last night’s show, I talked about having the right attitude. I spoke knowing what your abilities are; knowing you can do. Now the right motivation will help you do whatever it is you want to do.

You know people are always saying they need to be motivated in order to work out? You would think trying to fit into their bathing suits by summer would be motivation enough. Yet, if you don’t like to go to a beach or a pool, that doesn’t help you. A person needs to find their individual motivation.

Some people are just too lazy. Being lazy can be an attitude as well. So if you are lazy, I guess you are not going to do whatever it is you had wanted to do. You will always be standing still. You’ll never move up. Everyone will pass you by. Then what are you going to do? You can’t blame anyone around you because you chose to have the wrong attitude.

As we go through our lives every day, we have to determine what our attitudes will be. When you wake up every morning, you have to decide what your attitude for the day will be and maintain it no matter what happens.

I spoke about a co-worker who had been having a string of bad days lately. He woke up on Tuesday and decided that he would have a good day. He told me how he read is Bible on the train and was listening to gospel music. For the rest of his work day, he was great. The difference was instead of dwelling on what he disliked about the job, he was ready to have a good day. He was determined. He was motivated. He knew he could and he did.

So what type of attitude do you have?

Go through the week with this thought in mind:

Change the way you think, and you can change your world forever. Your attitude determines you altitude.

To listen to last night’s show, “The Right Attitude”, click here.

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Posted by on May 26, 2012 in Life, Work and School


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A Prayer for Finals Week

If you are a college student, you are undoubtedly going through finals week right now. So here’s a little prayer to help get you through it:

Now I lay me down to rest,

A pile of books upon my chest.

If I should die before I wake,

That’s one less test I’ll have to take.

Good luck to all of you. I’m sure you will be amazing. Godspeed!

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Posted by on May 22, 2012 in Work and School


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My Best Isn’t Good Enough? Ha!

Ever have that feeling where no matter what you do, it feels like it isn’t good enough? Story of my life!

There are so many days where I feel like that. I feel like no matter how hard I try, there isn’t a single bloody thing that I could do to make people happy. Somebody always wants more. This is definitely something I go through at work. On days where I feel I did an amazing job at something, They are quick to say, “Well you could’ve done this better” or “Yeah, but this…”.

There really shouldn’t be a situation where someone tells you “great job, but…”. It irks the life out of me. When I work with my associates, I always try to be positive.

Sometimes you have to be your own cheerleader. I had one associate tell me how frustrated she was with a manager. I asked her, “Did you do your best? If the answer is ‘yes’, then don’t worry about what she said. If the answer is ‘no’, then you know you have to do better.” Her response was, “I could’ve done better.”

There lies the difference. If you know you have given something your all, then who the heck cares what others have to say. I’ve actually told my manager this. If I know I gave you my best, then the problem is not me.

What some seem to be missing is that nobody can ask you for more than your best. So if that is what you are giving, tell the rest of the world to back up.

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Posted by on May 19, 2012 in Work and School


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