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Eddie Cantor Says…

 

“Slow down and enjoy life.

It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.”

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Posted by on June 9, 2012 in Life

 

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Busy Bees Miss Their Entire Life

I was messaging my friend, Todd, on Facebook this morning. It wasn’t that long ago. About five minutes ago (9:18am EST). When I asked how he was doing, he said he was “keeping busy”.

Why?

Why is that we always find ourselves in a position where we are always keeping busy? As a society, I’ve noticed that most of us are constantly moving. Seldom do we sit still and just breathe. Even sports fans. Go to a baseball game and you will see people hardly stay in their seats for more than 5 innings. They get restless.

Why are we always on the move? It is like we are running away from something. We don’t want to face something in our lives, so we keep moving to avoid hoping it won’t catch up to us. Maybe you should stop and think that perhaps with you constantly moving, you are missing out on some potentially wonderful things that could happen in your life.

It really is as simple as stopping to smell the flowers. Instead of eating at your desk, go to a park for lunch. Instead of hitting the busy stores, window shop with friends. Take a vacation with friends or by yourself. Create some ‘me’ time. You need it. Lord knows I need it as well.

I try to take advantage of every minute I have to myself. While sleep is a wonderful thing, I am not talking about sleeping the time away because you will still be missing out on life. The point is to go out and enjoy it. Forget about your worries for a day. You can deal with it tomorrow.

Bottom line: SLOW DOWN! Enjoy what life has to offer. Busy bees will always miss their entire life. All they do is work. We weren’t designed to always work. Take a day to enjoy yourself.

 
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Posted by on June 9, 2012 in Life

 

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Priorities: Not the easiest to keep in order

People are always talking about having priorities. One of the things we hear constantly throughout our lives is: 

Get your priorities straight.

We hear it growing up. We hear it as adults. We hear it while in relationships. How many actually listen though? Who takes the advice to heart?

There are quite a few people who need to learn this. It took me a little bit of time to follow this advice.

So what are the priorities of life? I think of it this way. Ask yourself what is most important in your life. Those things are your priority.

In my case, my priorities are as follows:

  • God (faith)
  • Family
  • Love
  • Me

The “me” category is vast. It covers things like a home, food, job, bills, etc. You get the point. Things like cable, games, video game consoles, etc., are considered luxuries. They aren’t priorities. They aren’t necessary for life. Things like having a home to live, food to eat and a job to pay for it all are.

People are part of our priorities. Looking out for those we love. Keeping our word is important and means a lot in this world. If you can’t keep your word, then why should anyone listen to you or trust you? That’s another topic for another day.

Back to priorities. Determine what those priorities are. Stick with them. Those are the most important things that are necessary for life. Sometimes it isn’t easy to keep these things in order.

There are so many other things that we want to do. Maybe go shopping or a vacation or a game. Unfortunately, we have to keep reminding ourselves what matters most.

<—-Remember this! It is relevant to every part of our lives from work to home life. Stop making excuses. You claim things are important. You claim things are a priority. Then find a way to take care of these things.

Sanity should also be a priority. Haha!

 
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Posted by on June 8, 2012 in Life

 

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Celebrate Good Times

It was a week to remember. The countdown began towards my graduation from Brooklyn College with a degree in Broadcasting Journalism. I thought the day would never come. It came and went by too fast. I wish the day was longer. I worked hard enough for it.

There are so many ways to describe that day. So many ways I can described what it meant to me. I even told my dad I wasn’t sure I was going to ever get to this point. I did!

I got to celebrate with friends and family. Those who I love the most were there to celebrate a giant milestone in my life. Some of them were celebrating the same milestone. Others were there just to party with me.

As I sat there in my cap and gown, I thought about everything. There was a lot that happened to me between going back to school and graduation. I battled inner demons like depression. I could say I failed at things, but I didn’t because I learned from them. I moved on past other things. I didn’t let anything stop me.

For me, the motto for the class of 2012 is: Strength, Determination, Faith and Love! RISE UP!

I heard a great speech from Senator Chuck Schumer. Even if we make mistakes, we can always get back on the horse and keep on going. Never stop dreaming. Never stop believing.

We all battled. We all made it. We thrived on the strength of each other. Meeting some of people I graduated with was a huge turning point in my life because they made all the difference in the world. I met a mother who was pregnant while in school and didn’t let that stop her from finishing a documentary we had to do for class. I met a girl who is probably the most positive person ever. She never appeared stressed out.

There were others.

I had a Professor who fought hard along side me and never let me fall. When I wanted to give up, she pushed me harder. She believed in me. She helped me come up with the idea for my first documentary “Empowering A Community”:

I accomplished so much. I worked so hard for it. While I was in school, I worked, blogged for several websites, recently started to host two podcasts while appearing as a guest on several others. I have come a long way from the insecure woman I was.

On Thursday, May 31, 2012, I rose up and showed the world what you can accomplish even when the odds are against you. To the class of 2012, we made it. We struggled, we stressed, we cried, but we did it!

Congratulations!

To all of my readers, listeners, friends and FB family, thank you for believing in me. Thank you for your continued support in everything I did. It makes all the difference in the world.

 
 

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Raw Emotions Revealed…Finally!

Raw Emotions Revealed…Finally!

How far is the east from the west? It is an interesting question because it can go on forever. Nobody can ever really tell you just how far it is. You would have to set two points on a map. Are you talking about from New York City to Los Angeles? Maybe China to New York?

There are endless answers to that question.

I enjoy listening to Christian music. It helps my soul. it feeds it. It softens it. I’ve always been a person who refuses to feel anything at times because I don’t want to be hurt. Yet Christian music opens me up to feeling. Maybe you know what I am talking about.

So I was listening to this one song be the Casting Crowns called “East to West” and it got me thinking about things. How often do I just sit around and think about my past mistakes? How often do I think about the things that put me in the situation that I am in today: no husband, no children and no career? How often do I think about the nights I spend alone crying myself to sleep or on the train almost in tears because I feel like I have failed everyone around me because I am not where I should be at this stage of my life?

This is who I am. I am a person who dwells on the past. As much as I try not to, I see those around me and where they are in comparison to where I am and I just end up spiraling out of control again. (Yes I suffer from “grass is greener on the other side” syndrome. Remember last week’s show?) I start to get scared because I feel like I am not going to be able to get back up this time.

Depression is the scariest thing to deal with for me. It never completely goes away because there is always that stupid voice in the back of your head that keeps coming back to taunt you. It reminds you of your problems, your failures and how you probably will never get to where you have always dreamed of being.

I’ve given up on things like success and marriage. I’ve given up on life at times and just want no part of it. I’ve cried so many tears to the point I can no longer see because they are so swollen. I get these little red spots under my eyes from crying so much.

I’ve screamed, cursed, hit and thrown things. My emotions tend to run high. I’ve completely collapsed from crying. People don’t see this side of me. I don’t let them. Not even my family has completely seen this dark side of me. At least to the fullest extent of it anyway. And they’ve seen a lot. My family has gotten scared that one day I just won’t be around anymore. It is their biggest fear.

But I’m here. By God’s mercy and love, I am still here.

And this is where I ended up thinking about this song. Even when I feel like the darkest part of me is coming back, that is when I really do have to just let go and let God.

Sometimes “I start the day, the war begins, endless reminding of my [past]”. I know His “truth is [sometimes] drowned out by the storm I’m in”. The scary thought is I also feel like “I’m just one mistake away from [Him] leaving me this way”. Where that comes from I don’t know. He has always “turned my darkness into light”. I just always need His “peace to get me through. I can’t live by what I feel, but by the truth His word reveals”. There are days when I don’t hold onto Him, but He’s always “holding on to me”.

When it comes His love, there is no such thing as point A to point B. It is infinite.

“East to West” by Casting Crowns

 
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Posted by on May 26, 2012 in Depression, Life

 

Attitude Determines Altitude

Attitude Determines Altitude

There is something to be said about your attitude determining how far you will go. Former New York Jets coach,
Lou Holtz, had this to say about attitudes:

Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.

During last night’s show, I talked about having the right attitude. I spoke knowing what your abilities are; knowing you can do. Now the right motivation will help you do whatever it is you want to do.

You know people are always saying they need to be motivated in order to work out? You would think trying to fit into their bathing suits by summer would be motivation enough. Yet, if you don’t like to go to a beach or a pool, that doesn’t help you. A person needs to find their individual motivation.

Some people are just too lazy. Being lazy can be an attitude as well. So if you are lazy, I guess you are not going to do whatever it is you had wanted to do. You will always be standing still. You’ll never move up. Everyone will pass you by. Then what are you going to do? You can’t blame anyone around you because you chose to have the wrong attitude.

As we go through our lives every day, we have to determine what our attitudes will be. When you wake up every morning, you have to decide what your attitude for the day will be and maintain it no matter what happens.

I spoke about a co-worker who had been having a string of bad days lately. He woke up on Tuesday and decided that he would have a good day. He told me how he read is Bible on the train and was listening to gospel music. For the rest of his work day, he was great. The difference was instead of dwelling on what he disliked about the job, he was ready to have a good day. He was determined. He was motivated. He knew he could and he did.

So what type of attitude do you have?

Go through the week with this thought in mind:

Change the way you think, and you can change your world forever. Your attitude determines you altitude.

To listen to last night’s show, “The Right Attitude”, click here.

 
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Posted by on May 26, 2012 in Life, Work and School

 

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A Prayer for Finals Week

If you are a college student, you are undoubtedly going through finals week right now. So here’s a little prayer to help get you through it:

Now I lay me down to rest,

A pile of books upon my chest.

If I should die before I wake,

That’s one less test I’ll have to take.

Good luck to all of you. I’m sure you will be amazing. Godspeed!

 
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Posted by on May 22, 2012 in Work and School

 

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